I’ve recently started coaching three very different people who have exactly the same issue with tests: they’re all afraid of failing. To be accurate, they’re all afraid of failing again.
Each of them (a high school, college and graduate student) had a bad experience in the past with a test—one didn’t finish in time, one didn’t get the score she wanted and one actually failed. I’m using the word “bad experience” instead of “failure.” While every one of us has had a bad experience with a test none of us is a failure because of it.
Following what I wrote in my last post: when you have a bad experience you have two choices with how you are going to hold that experience. Choice #1: You say to yourself, “Oh, no, it happened before and it’s going to happen again. For sure. No way I’m going to Read more ›
Do you really have to be so frightened every time?
When I was a young child — 9 years old to be exact– my parents sent me on a plane, alone, to visit my beloved aunt in Florida. It was exciting to travel by myself and I was treated royally by the flight crew.
Somewhere along the way the plane got into a big storm and started bouncing around terribly. This was in the days of prop planes, much smaller than the ones today and much more vulnerable to bad weather. The turbulence got worse and worse and the plane was now getting thrown around in the sky, People started screaming. I was so scared. My aunt said that when I got off the plane in Miami and ran into her arms she saw that I had bitten clear through my bottom lip.
This event had a terrible effect on me for years every time I went into an airplane . For days Read more ›