Last night we were invited to Christine Springer and Daniel Pociernicki’s home in San Francisco for a reading salon. It was the first public reading of my book. I chose to read the preface and part of the last chapter.
Here’s a selection from the preface:
HOW DID HE DO IT?
On November 4, 2008, 66 million people elected Barack Obama the 44th president of the United States. How did he, a young man with a brief resume, make this dream come true?
All the pundits weigh in: “He’s smart.” “He’s savvy.” “He put together a great team.” “He raised a phenomenal amount of money.” All true, but not the whole truth. Through my eyes as a performance coach I see something more fundamental.
Obama has all three traits that I discuss in this workbook. He is calm, confident and focused, and that makes people trust him and believe in him. He never loses his cool, he never seems dejected or bitter at a loss, and it certainly doesn’t make him lose steam and he is never off-message. Obama’s story is especially amazing when you take in the challenges he had to overcome—an African American with little money, virtually no experience on the international stage, and with the middle name Hussein.
Calm, confident and focused. To many this combination seems elusive and mystical, improbable to achieve. Not so. Barack Obama wanted the presidency and on the path to achieving his goal he had to pass many tests. He passed them all with these invaluable traits.Not everyone wants to be president. But anyone can learn to be calm, confident and focused. We all have that potential.You too can cultivate these qualities. You too can succeed at even the most difficult tests. Let me show you how.
Spoke on “Distress or De-Stress? How to Stay Focused in Challenging Times.” Terrific, receptive group. Well run by Kristy Rogers– dynamic and most resourceful. During the talk I gave a 45 second “infomercial” on the book: “I’m seeking corporate and philanthropic sponsors to buy the book in volume at substantial discount, and give them away to under-served students, their teachers and parents.” I got some excellent leads. Stay tuned! If you don’t know about this group, find out by contacting Kristy directly: kristyrogers@eWomenNetwork.com.
Vena Dorn won the book in a raffle!
More research-based evidence is emerging about the value of appreciations. When people are appreciated they feel valued and work harder. Our working group ends every session with appreciations– for each other and for ourselves. Here’s Candice and Darnell with their PRIZED! stickers. (The sticker is another way of showing appreciation: “You are prized!”). As we head into their last week of summer vacation there’s a lot of work to do to get ready for the book launch. Candice and Darnell, we appreciated YOU!
I was the invited speaker for a Silicon Valley meeting of the eWomensNetwork. The head of the chapter is Kristy Rogers– very dynamic, giving and totally tuned in to the needs of her members. My talk was on Distress or De-stress: How to Stay Focused in Challenging Times. The group was great– very responsive and lively. Here I am with Vena Dorn, who won the raffle, and with Kristy Rogers. Books sold– parents and grandparents. “This is the perfect back-to-school gift for my grandchildren.” Now that’s a thoughtful Grannie!
Hi. My name is Candice, and I’m Darnell. The first week of working with Dr. B was spontaneous– there was a lot going on. We had fun doing different things. We had to teach Dr. B how to use his muscles carrying more than one
box of books at a time. (The boxes were heavy!). It was a hot day day and we had a human conveyor belt taking the boxes from the truck to the stairs,
to the living room and then stack them in the basement. We had a break–with juice (Darnell: I loved the juice!). Then we had to stamp all of the mailing envelopes, in a specific place and order (Candace: that was monotony!). Dr. B gave us each a copy of his book. When we first saw the book I thought “Am we going to have to read this?” But once we started reading we got very interested in it. There was a lot we could connected and we started learning thngs to apply to our lives. To be continued!”
The Recovery Act is coming through in a great way! It’s providing the
funding to pay two local high school interns to work with me on fall book
launch. The program– EYE (Emeryville Young Entrepreneurs) is giving high
school students who are entrepreneurially minded the chance to learn about
business practices while they are given responsibilities in the ongoing
work of the business. We were sent a bunch of books to send out and sell
and our first task was to work with the inventory. We’ll include pictures
and the stories of our two great interns– Candice and Darnell, both going
into their sophomore year at Emery High in Emeryville,California– which is
the East bay– bordering on Oakland and Berkeley. Part of the training for
Candice and Darnell is to learn the material in the book– so they can
explain it to others and use it themselves (to improve their own test
performance). Thank you President Obama and Congress for providing the
stimulus money for this. We are so appreciative!
All 80 students of the Young Musician’s Program at the University of California Berkeley, received THE WORKBOOK FOR TEST SUCCESS as a gift from a very generous YMP Board member. YMP is an exceptional program for underserved youth, holding yearly auditions for musically talented and musically promising students . Though there is a strong focus on music, YMP is a college-track program– with 100% success rate of its students getting into schools — including Juilliard and Oberlin– many at full scholarship. The dynamic director of the program, Daisy Newman, invited Dr. Bernstein to work with the students on issues related to performance (anxiety; dynamism; preparation; academic issues), and the results have been palpable. The students were thrilled to receive the book. Said one, “This book is so great. It’s just like having Dr. B in my house!” We are seeking sponsorships like the one at YMP– to get the book into the hands of the students, parents and teachers who can really use it. If you are a board member or a philanthropist, please contact us to discuss your group and how we can work together.
“While Dr. Bernstein wrote his book initially for a North American audience, it is made for this part of the world, where students face daily pressure not only in school but at home. In the age of the tiger mom, students and parents alike will find useful advice in this book on how to deal with exam-related stress and pressure from schoolwork in general."
Alex Lo, columnist and Editor,
South China Morning Post, Hong Kong